In my California Romance Series the heroes and heroines need to go through a change before they can get the love they want and deserve. I’ve found that through my own life, as well as with friends, that love only improves when you face and deal with your own demons.
One of the reviewers of California Sunset hit the nail on the head when she said:
“I guess it is a symbol of our country that adults are afraid to take a chance and stay locked in jobs they do not like just to keep their seniority and insurance.”
The heroine of that book, Annie, has to take a risk to get the love she deserves as well as the life she deserves, but in order to do that, she needs to face the demons from her childhood, memories she’s locked away for most of her life. But it never ends with uncovering or facing those demons, does it? You need to actively do something different, or you’ll be in the same old rut.
It took me years to figure that one out. Years and dozens of self-help books, Al-Anon, therapists and yes, my own body-work. My first turning point was when three people recommended Melody Beattie’s Codependent No More. (I always figure when three people tell me the same thing in a very short period of time, God is really trying to get my attention!)
Some several years after that, I walked into a small bookstore in Santa Cruz and was inspired to take a session with a psychic. She recommended writing my life story and doing body-work. Since I’ve written my life story more times than I’d care to admit, and there are times its utterly depressing, I settled for the body-work.
It was amazing.
I knew I was headed in the right path when I was answering a personal ad. The man at the other end of the phone was a highly educated taxi driver in his 40s. I’d been with far too many men who had never achieved their potential and fallen too many times for “If I only had the right woman…” I told the guy I wasn’t interested. He told me I was a snob. I agreed and hung up.
And did a Snoopy dance of happiness around my living room!
How about you? What books or people or events have inspired you to make a significant change in your life? Leave a comment below.